All kinds of analysis, diets, and exercising programs... Can you put all these aside for a while and have a look at here?
Where are we in our relationship with food? What was the last time we fed our body without feeling guilty, by listening to it and with what it really needs?
There is a short exercise we do in the introductory meetings of nutritional therapy. We try to get back to our first memory about our relationship with food. Some of us achieve this with pleasure and quickly while others have difficulty to remember the slightest thing. The common ground of those who can remember is: No anxiety about the food they had or what it was supposed to be, no perception of right/wrong, no uneasiness in these memories. On the contrary, there is this emotional and sensory experience of happiness, peace in which shared food feeds not only our stomach and body, but also our whole existence...
One of the leading names of holistic nutrition and functional medicine, Dr. Mark Hyman writes often about this topic. He repeats something particularly important: If our mood, our relations with people around us and overall peace is not good, we cannot be healthy even if we consume the most amazing super-food in the world.
One of the most important things for me at this point is the vicious cycle that we create based on a continuous avoiding and deprivation about food, that we teach our children and that we pattern after. When someone runs after a baby because he does not want to eat, the baby has difficulty in trusting his instincts when he grows up, thinks he does not eat enough and consumes more... After a while, eating starts to lead to a feeling of guilt after witnessing the desire “to be really thin” which is widely accepted in the media. His relationship with food which turns into a journey between being able to control what he eats quantitatively and the guilt he feels when he can’t control it in emotional states becomes a phenomenon that settles between the feeling of success and failure that he defines through himself. In this process, both body and the psyche move away from what is real, satisfying, and nutritious.
Does this sound familiar?
Dr. Nirdosh Kohra conducts researches on the medicine of mindfulness, and relates even the allergies we develop against food to the memories inside our cells; he states that if we have an unpleasant experience while we are consuming a certain food, we register this memory and remember it from the cellular intelligence with every consumption of this food and react accordingly. We can see how sensual and holistic eating is with this approach, as well.
Within this holistic view, we can notice our own memories and triggers, remember to listen to our bodies, leave aside the perception of right-wrong, feed ourselves in accordance with our personal autonomy and ourselves and support both our bodies and our spirits in the way they require and deserve.
Not to mention the loads that do not belong to us and that we will get rid of during this process. Wish you wellness.